Saturday, July 10, 2010

The Compartmentalization of Desire

A lot of recent events have forced me to think about why we, as humans are sometimes the greatest barrier to our happiness. How we, ourselves hold the key to our own happiness, how we are the architects of each day of our life and the driver of each path we take. In our right state of mind, we are all enabled, sensible and thought out individuals well endowed with the capacity of taking decisions that should be taken. Why, then, given this advantage are we often our own biggest criminals?

I look around myself and see people I care for doing themselves grave injustice in their own decisions, and other than the standard 'pep' talk I can do nothing. After all, you can take the horse to the water, you cant make him drink. I see friends making compromises and sacrifices to keep transient relationships and fleeting feelings intact. While I understand its hard to let go - after all relationships come with a lot of desirable qualities - security, comfort, love etc. What I do not understand is why anyone would hold on to something simply because they're afraid to let go. Its about the 'What will I do without..' question that is plague. I say, why cant you ask yourself 'What am I doing with'?

Desire can take on morbid forms sometimes - its important to know when the line is breached. I graduated from being a foolish naive young girl into a woman who believes that 'YOU' have to be the most important person in your life. If YOU dont respect yourself, NO ONE will! Putting one's foot down in light of maintaining self respect or sanity are not only acceptable, they are MUST. DO. IT. NOW.

27 comments:

Anonymous said...

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eye-in-sty-in said...

its true what you say, but its difficult for the person who has to do it... once one gets used to a person, feelings, the desirable qualities... its hard to come out of it... perhaps being in a relationship[ is like falling in a hole... or climbing down a mountain.. the ride downhill is a joy, but the climb back up is a pain... hence the reluctance? Should we be superficial in all relationships so it does not hurt us if things go bad...?

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ani_aset said...

Its difficult the first time, but slowly when one is wiser they will start loving self first. This in no way means we stop loving more, but we should never let ourselves be run over

Anonymous said...

A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody...................................................................

Indian Girl said...

so how does the 'you' become the most important person ? why should we take ourself so seriously? agree with other things, it's important to let go, only then can fresh 'meat' come!

snow said...

where are you, girl?

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Practice what you preach.............................................................

Anonymous said...

人生的「三部曲」應該是無愧的昨天,充實的今天,與充滿希望的明天。..................................................

Anonymous said...

時間就是塑造生命的材料。

張志亦劉美玲 said...

Man proposes, God disposes..................................................................

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S said...

Its about the 'What will I do without..' question that is plague. I say, why cant you ask yourself 'What am I doing with'?

This sums it all..

If only it was as easy to understand!

Anonymous said...

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家唐銘 said...

Pen and ink is wits plough...................................................................

CONSIOUSNESS said...

hey dats actually the right u said here..bt life teaches n we learn..thats the way...with each n every lesson you have to become more n more strong n experienced...

馬旖 said...

IS VERY GOOD..............................

建邱勳 said...

人生是一連串的課程,必須活過才能明白。......................................................

王辛江淑萍康 said...

路過~很有趣吶...............................................................

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

如果你批評他人。你就沒有時間付出愛......................................................................

Anonymous said...

愛情是盲目的,但婚姻恢復了它的視力。......................................................................

Rohini said...

That's a novel approach though its been in our faces for long, isn't it? :)
Well written!