Saturday, May 28, 2011

The one year gyaan

It's been almost a year since I moved here - and its been a whirlwind of new experiences, people, emotions, chaos and what not. As I look back at the year that went past - here are the few things I learnt the hard way or otherwise...
  • I do not like Accounting.
  • Accounting does not like me.
  • I LEARNT HOW TO COOK!
  • I failed the damn driving test. stupid rules. This DOES NOT mean I dont know how to drive, it just means Im generating more revenue for cash strapped US. (gah)
  • I am GREAT cook (if I may say so myself?) Therefore my lifelong wish of having my kids tell other kids that their mom cooks the best food is not so distant. (of course marriage and kids come first, but what the hell, i cleared the important hurdle, right?)
  • People are not as nice as they seem. SPECIALLY in another country. ESPECIALLY in an MBA. blame it on "the curve" which Indians take WAYY too seriously when they move into an uber competitive environment.
  • Life in a small college town in America is not as 'simple' as it is cut out to be. Gunmen are real. I remember being very freaked out, and very shaken up...
  • ALWAYS ALWAYS do groceries separately with a roommate. Never live with someone you cannot 'figure out' the first time you meet. Never be 'too nice' or 'too accomodating' unless the other person reciprocates. NEVER do the dishes and chores more than thrice in a row unless the roommate does her bit.
  • The best advice I came to America with was given to me by my ex boss - he said 'Never be surprised by people' He was right. What with seeing married friends hook up, to friends acting ridiculously competitive, the roommate acting 6 years old to acting like a complete bitch, I'm not surprised.
  • When in Rome, do as the Romans - I took to beer after years of being a mojito girl.. 'Brief and Meets', 'Meet and Greets', 'Think and Drinks' all fancy words for 'networking' basically entail beer and or wine and an empty class is rude. Lowering inhibitions is KEY. Growing up in India means we're already equipped with some pre conceived notions, lines, limits which is GREAT, but stands in the way of a lot of fun. The most fun thing I did this year was a scavenger hunt the contents of which I cannot describe here since this is a PG13 blog. Point being, I would've never, ever, ever done this before- but I did, and its the best story Ill never tell my grandkids.
  • I learnt that even as 27 year olds, some people still behave 12. no 8. no wait, 6.
  • I learnt how important those little things mom and dad teach you are tools they equip you in facing life - and how the difference in those little things taught to different people makes them petty, or selfish, or angry, or nice... thanks ma and pa for teaching me to always always being the bigger person.
  • Drifting away from some friends back home is not only inevitable, its ok. I drifted away from one of my best friends back home just because she just had NO time for me this past year, and is so caught up in her own life that she hasnt replied to my emails, fb messages and phone calls! While that hurt initially, now - its ok. I've accepted it, and moved on too...
  • In America, a sandwich is a burger.
  • If you ask an American for a 'tissue' or where the 'dustbin is' or 'loo' is - they WONT KNOW. its napkin, trashcan, or restroom. :-/
  • Americans think India is a big village where we learnt to speak English after we move to the US. (14 people asked me if I knew English before I moved here, by the end of which I actually said sarcastically that I took a crash course for 3 months before moving. funny thing is, i think some of them believe me)
  • The ground floor here is actually the first and the first is the second and so on. Which makes NO sense. Ground level = Ground floor, right?
  • The 'on' state for switches in India is the 'off' state here.
  • Other than a few cities like New York / SF u NEED a car in the US, else your just immobile.
  • My Metric system has gone for a toss. WTF is a gallon (I do litres, please), Miles (Kms?), pounds.. really why does America INSIST on having things the other way round from the rest of the world.
  • One year later, I still look the wrong way while crossing the street! Seriously whats with the left hand side driving when the world is on right?!!
  • It is acceptable to go for dinner at 6 (what?)
Need to go look at cars now, Internship starts June 6 and need to nail one down before that!

4 comments:

Aditya said...

* I failed the damn driving test. stupid rules. This DOES NOT mean I dont know how to drive, it just means Im generating more revenue for cash strapped US. (gah)

++From what I hear, it's the same in the UK. I'm on my second IDP right now!

* I am GREAT cook (if I may say so myself?) Therefore my lifelong wish of having my kids tell other kids that their mom cooks the best food is not so distant. (of course marriage and kids come first, but what the hell, i cleared the important hurdle, right?)

+++ Isn't cooking fun?! I've enjoyed it so much that a large chunk of my life goes in deciding what to cook and then actually making it!

* People are not as nice as they seem. SPECIALLY in another country. ESPECIALLY in an MBA. blame it on "the curve" which Indians take WAYY too seriously when they move into an uber competitive environment.

+++The worst people I've met in the UK have unfailingly been Indian. It might be because we know what to look out for in Indians, but it doesn't make me feel good.

* ALWAYS ALWAYS do groceries separately with a roommate. Never live with someone you cannot 'figure out' the first time you meet. Never be 'too nice' or 'too accomodating' unless the other person reciprocates. NEVER do the dishes and chores more than thrice in a row unless the roommate does her bit.

+++I got lucky with my roomies the first time, the second time though was horrendous. Yeah, I concur.

* When in Rome, do as the Romans - I took to beer after years of being a mojito girl.. 'Brief and Meets', 'Meet and Greets', 'Think and Drinks' all fancy words for 'networking' basically entail beer and or wine and an empty class is rude. Lowering inhibitions is KEY. Growing up in India means we're already equipped with some pre conceived notions, lines, limits which is GREAT, but stands in the way of a lot of fun. The most fun thing I did this year was a scavenger hunt the contents of which I cannot describe here since this is a PG13 blog. Point being, I would've never, ever, ever done this before- but I did, and its the best story Ill never tell my grandkids.

+++Oddly here in the UK no one cares if you're drinking alcohol or not. Even at uni we had European teetotallers. No one gave a damn.

Aditya said...

* I learnt that even as 27 year olds, some people still behave 12. no 8. no wait, 6.

+++I hear you. "Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional." Unfortunately, a lot of "grown ups" are just kids.

* Drifting away from some friends back home is not only inevitable, its ok.

+++Drifting happens, but it's the ability to carry on where you left of - at least the comfort level - that matters. It is true that the number of common topics to discuss drops tremendously, but if it really was a good friendship, then the ease of discussing troubles doesn't ever go away.

* In America, a sandwich is a burger.
* If you ask an American for a 'tissue' or where the 'dustbin is' or 'loo' is - they WONT KNOW. its napkin, trashcan, or restroom. :-/
* The 'on' state for switches in India is the 'off' state here.
* One year later, I still look the wrong way while crossing the street! Seriously whats with the left hand side driving when the world is on right?!!

+++I'm *SO* glad to be in Britain!

* Americans think India is a big village where we learnt to speak English after we move to the US.
+++Same with Europeans. I carry an Indian currency note with me all the time - it shows that 1) English is numero one for governance and business and 2) we have sixteen different languages and most of them have dissimilar scripts (unlike Europe). It always stuns them.

* My Metric system has gone for a toss. WTF is a gallon (I do litres, please), Miles (Kms?), pounds.. really why does America INSIST on having things the other way round from the rest of the world.
+++Again, glad to be in the UK which because of trade relations with the Euro everything HAS to be marked in Metric. So milk and alcohol and such are generally marked with both units.

* It is acceptable to go for dinner at 6 (what?)
+++Yeah, I don't get that either...

Tongue-fu Lady said...

do all FOBs face the same problems? I feel like u are recounting my experience too :P

Scarlett said...

You forgot to mention - no 13th floor in buildings. Gas, not petrol. Eraser, not rubber. To go, not take away. Tall, grande & venti refer to coffee sizes. Individualism is the norm, not the exception. People wear sweatshirts/jackets with shorts in the winter. And many more I'm sure.

BTW, I'm not your drifter friend, am I?